tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post2036999561816702144..comments2024-03-28T02:11:12.117-05:00Comments on Wrong Way Corrigan: The Republic of JealousyWrong Way Corriganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10683169906289073239noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-70075259536089377372019-06-14T11:58:43.556-05:002019-06-14T11:58:43.556-05:00Hi! Cheers for getting in touch! In my experiences...Hi! Cheers for getting in touch! In my experiences, "they" (and yes, one has to be careful to generalise, but these things don't just come out of thin air), can be uberly loving and then, in an instant, very cold. Generally, if somebody's getting easily offended it might be a sign that she's also "talking" to somebody else at the same time. This piece in my sister blog touches on this somewhat: http://blogs.eltiempo.com/wrong-way-corrigan/2016/07/05/defenders-of-the-unfaithful/ Wrong Way Corriganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10683169906289073239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-8086618546479438742019-06-14T11:41:11.162-05:002019-06-14T11:41:11.162-05:00Interesting article . Thanks for sharing your expe...Interesting article . Thanks for sharing your experiences . I was wondering if u also found the " majority" of colombian women to be defensive or easily insulted ? Like easy to say the wrong thing even though it intentions were good type thing? Been talking with a colombian girl last month or so and I almost get that feeling. Just curious if its possibly a latin trait or just this girl as an individual? Thanks sheep_no_morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07301195731760302637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-13569006749108914332017-06-11T11:56:40.535-05:002017-06-11T11:56:40.535-05:00We certainly don't see them as a resource to b...We certainly don't see them as a resource to be exploited 'Anonymous', far from it. However, the actions of some do that themselves on occasions (see http://bit.ly/2qExNAa). <br />Plus, I think you'll find the Colombians play up these stereotypes themselves and they don't, like any stereotype, come out of nowhere. <br />Thanks for taking the time to comment.Wrong Way Corriganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10683169906289073239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-89951014332885122212017-06-11T11:12:13.683-05:002017-06-11T11:12:13.683-05:00Yep Milo, bang on... This whole blog is infected b...Yep Milo, bang on... This whole blog is infected by sexist nonsense, especially the grotesque idea that colombianas or "latinas" (these only exist in the US really) can somehow be regarded as a resource to be exploited. That arsehole above taking about a "quality latina". Catch yourself on, my friend! And the reproduction of stereotypical nonsense such as the claim that "if you're surrounded by paisas they must be ferociously attractive" or some other such bullshit. Disgraceful, laddish shite.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-23628854525504714222017-06-10T20:10:31.804-05:002017-06-10T20:10:31.804-05:00Amy, yes, yes and yes. I feel your pain - have bee...Amy, yes, yes and yes. I feel your pain - have been through similar things with my Colombian husband. And, he is also from a low class neighborhood. Interesting angle, but totally plausible. I am happy with our relationship, but he does act like an overgrown cave-man at times which has led to our fair share of reckonings. In the end it takes constant compromise. He isnt as jealous as some men and women here, but I see it rear its ugly head whenever I am working with men - which is pretty regular.Openmindedtravelerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03658207931029302645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-63628975205947293262015-02-13T16:21:34.743-05:002015-02-13T16:21:34.743-05:00You really need to have lived in Colombia to have ...You really need to have lived in Colombia to have experienced it. I'm (female) in a similarly happy relationship with a Colombian man to the one you speak of, but he's very much been the exception.<br />The gomelos are the worst, since they look for a rubia girlfriend as an accessory much like buying a car. When I was new here I gave a couple of guys my number to get them to leave me alone when I was in a bar, as they were harrassingly persistent, and my friends weren't around. Probably the 3rd and last time I visited the zona t, only to receive around 14 missed calls a day at one point, or them trying to strike up a convo 3 months later 'checking in'. gross.<br /><br />Male friends dating both men and women have had identical experiences, 30 missed calls in about 2 hours off the same number is standard.<br /><br />One thing I will comment about my partner is that he's from a working class neighbourhood where they hate gringos. <br /><br />It would be interesting to compare your comments about Venezuela, not by gender or sexual orientation, since I've also been pursued by women in the same manner, but more of a class/political orientation would be interesting and if rampant neo-liberalism is a factor.<br /><br />-Amy.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08506567362173010281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-9824053851294627452014-02-17T20:01:38.612-05:002014-02-17T20:01:38.612-05:00Obviously no arguments from this side on that Chri...Obviously no arguments from this side on that Chris!<br /><br />Also I think anyone who lives in these parts for a bit will notice it pretty quickly.<br /><br />Anyway, I've made my points above!Wrong Way Corriganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10683169906289073239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-19206697831409398052014-02-17T15:41:12.390-05:002014-02-17T15:41:12.390-05:00"gaze with a coloniser's hubris into the ..."gaze with a coloniser's hubris into the Cartagena night..." that's pretty damn poetic. But back to the posting at hand, look on OKCupid, for example, and gaze with hubris upon the question "jealousy: healthy or unhealthy in a relationship?" You will find most Colombianas on OKC will check that "healthy" response. (Don't know about the dudes; I didn't check them out.) The level of jealousy I've encountered here is, to me, unreal and a bit scary. I get where it's coming from -- Latin men are, for the most part, unrepentant poon-hounds -- but Jesus, it's tiring for a non-Latin guy to deal with sometimes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03070964985210768738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-82934789087299383602013-12-17T17:50:41.298-05:002013-12-17T17:50:41.298-05:00We won't insult your intelligence as you have ...We won't insult your intelligence as you have ours. We've made these observations on our experiences and also those of others we have encountered and spoken with. Only yesterday we had a coffee with a Colombiana who agreed wholeheartedly with the sentiments expressed above and in other pieces where we've touched on such topics.<br /><br />These are real life experiences, not imaginary. And you'll find if you speak with many in these parts, locals as well as expats, there is concurrence. We've certainly aware of the danger (and arrogance, as you like to point out) of making generalisations. It's why we thought long and hard about penning such pieces. But from our own experiences and anecdotal evidence, we felt there was merit in writing about such topics.<br /><br />We apologise if you find the tone arrogant; that's not our attention. A day spent in our company, with our modest way of living, may dispel such beliefs on your part -- we hope.<br /><br />We're delighted for you that you've managed to find love with a Venezuelan woman. Unlike Colombia, we haven't lived in that country, only visited it on two occasions. So it would be remiss of us to make any comment about relationships and romance there. Indeed, you'll find that the vast majority of our stories on romance/relationships are focused on Colombia, as this is where we're living and experiencing such things. You've introduced the Latina generalisation.<br /><br />Thanks anyway for taking the time to comment and for having read some of our posts, even if they're not to your satisfaction. We don't expect everyone to agree with us and we welcome dissenting voices.<br /><br />Gracias.Wrong Way Corriganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10683169906289073239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-90756707957576310662013-12-17T12:05:06.103-05:002013-12-17T12:05:06.103-05:00Read a number of your blogs and honestly, cannot b...Read a number of your blogs and honestly, cannot believe the supercilious arrogance of the writing - an affected erudition that comments and classifies South American women with sweeping generalisations. The nature of the writing is such, that you are akin to a cuckold in a brothel discussing the merits and de-merits of the latest woman or in your case, latina or venezolana or colombiana or chilena etc. I bet you love your labels as you gaze with a coloniser's hubris into the Cartagena night. The last thing Latin America needs is another poxed and arrogant westerner dismantling their spiritus of people with integrity, honour, dignity and I know my extended family in Venezuela would find your uneducated rantings comical and pathetic(I am an Irish male Married to a Venezuelan woman).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10296849027952824922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-2532263356418508152013-04-09T11:23:07.327-05:002013-04-09T11:23:07.327-05:00Cheers for the comment 'BelgaCol'!
Really...Cheers for the comment 'BelgaCol'!<br /><br />Really in terms of assessing the mentality of Latinas, 'Team Wrong Way' can only write about Colombia & Chile. The other countries we haven't been in long enough to give a fair appraisal.<br /><br />The Chilenas from our experience are not in the same bracket as what's mentioned above, but then again, Chile is different from the rest of the Latino world in lots of ways we reckon (see http://bit.ly/14Ux1Bz).<br /><br />In terms of understanding the intense jealousy, can us foreigners really do that? Whatever about understanding it, we shouldn't just accept it. Irrational thinking in any sphere is not good!Wrong Way Corriganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10683169906289073239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-44662566476785140492013-04-09T10:00:28.224-05:002013-04-09T10:00:28.224-05:00Hi Brendan,
Another interesting post concerning h...Hi Brendan, <br />Another interesting post concerning how foreigners will experience "matters of the heart" with Colombianas/Latinas. I had various Colombian girlfriends and female friends, and even though so far I've been saved from really very intense jealousy/infidelity issues with Latinas, it definitely is an issue that foreigners need to dig into and understand if they want to have a long-term relationship with a quality Latina. <br />Latina/Colombian women have an interest in non-macho foreign men, since so many of them are fed us with their macho/unfaithfull men, but then they will need to understand/accept that we are different, and that can be mentally so hard for them.<br />I really don't know the female mindset of Latinas from every Latin American company, but from my point of view I do think that Colombianas are less "pesada/intensa" on the jealousy issue than Ecuatorianas. <br />BelgaColnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-44128040871916894162013-04-08T14:45:02.498-05:002013-04-08T14:45:02.498-05:00Cheers for the link 'Monos Desnudos'!
Per...Cheers for the link 'Monos Desnudos'!<br /><br />Perhaps some of our Colombian amigas might read it too..?!Wrong Way Corriganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10683169906289073239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732538313987233397.post-7842229765428147012013-04-07T22:35:38.351-05:002013-04-07T22:35:38.351-05:00Good piece and all true! I would like to add that ...Good piece and all true! I would like to add that what is going on in Colombia when it comes to jealousy that it's mostly irrational jealousy, which is the worst kind because it's is all in the head off the jealous one. This is a nice link to read some more about that: http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-and-Abandon-JealousyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11365950536115677742noreply@blogger.com